The most painful part of my journey healing my son has been dealing with the judgements and gossip of others. We all want to fit in. We all want to be accepted and understood. But kids and families with invisible and visible special needs do not always fit into the mainstream culture, do not always feel or gain acceptance and are often misunderstood. I get it. I was one of the ignorant until the world of sensory and neural processing, learning and behavioral differences moved into our house.
Whether parents, teachers or kids, so many individuals have said or done intentional or ignorant hurtful things over the last few years, it has taken all my strength to let it pass on by. To be honest, I’ve had to go through a metamorphosis from a regular mom of reasonably healthy kids to a warrior mom of a special needs child who has opened my eyes and my HEART to a whole new world that I would have never, ever known about.
As a parent advocate for my special needs child, I’ve had to hit the ground running in order to respond, treat, support and translate the world to and for my son. For as many kids as have processing or behavioral challenges, general public awareness and understanding is woefully lacking. I have hit hurdles and pitfalls but I never stop moving forward. I love my child and see his incredible gifts and potential even on the worst of days. But sometimes that doesn’t feel like enough.
I recently found this amazing resource and I wanted to share it asap with those who read this blog. It’s called Understood.org. This website is filled with helpful articles and resources for families with children with any learning challenges. I have found many resources that are helpful but I love the focus on being understood, finding understanding, and sharing this with those who could be better allies or support if they also understood.
The silver lining is that hopefully by sharing our experiences, more people will be inspired to learn and understand. With understanding comes compassion and eventually a more joyous and harmonious experience of life.
If you happen to meet someone who looks like they are having a difficult time, either mentally, physically or emotionally, be kind. You never know what they are struggling to live with and kindness is always appreciated.
Links you might find interesting:
Metta Sutra (for peace)
Parenting Children With Special Needs (and how to help others understand)
ADD Magazine (I do not like their constant emphasis on drugs, but good articles)